Life is really amazing and full of unexpected surprise. After a year and half of marriage, finally I am ready to be a full time working-at-home wife. Even it's sort of forced decision, but I am still glad to take this chance. A year and half live away from husband, it's not healthy for a new-built family, at least my definition of family. I took the vows in front of God to be Jackie's helper, and to grand him as our family's head. Now, it's time for us to make the decision which we should make 2 years ago.
There are lots of voices around us ever since anyone who knows that Jackie is working in China. In general, I separated into two groups. The first group I called "Church Group". Every friends from church strongly suggest and encourage us to live together for sure after we got married since Bible said husband needs to live with wife. I agreed at all, but in fact, I am not ready yet. Partially of course because of financial pressure, but most of the reason is that I am really not the dependant guy, even though I am dependant on my husband. No misunderstanding. I am not the one who needs money to feel safe or proof myself. I just get used to handle all the things by myself since I am 15. I can't imagine or I can't make sure that I can live life to be a dependant. The second group is "Workaholic Group". Usually this group are friends from working place or college mates. They thought that I should not quit my job due to I have very progressive career life ahead of me, and I shouldn't give up for the sake of family. Even just away from job market for several years, it's hard to back on track of certain level of career. That's true too. But I had mix feelings. To be an extremely successful career guy is not my life goal. I do need recognition from work place, and I do urge myself to do everything as best as I could, but to achieve the highest level is not always my concern. I just want to play a good role when I am in this role. So, even I choose to stay in Taiwan alone, but I always know one day I will be quitting if Jackie still works in China.Just a matter of time when I am ready.
Now, I am ready, I told myself. When the time is finally coming, yes, both Jackie and I know it's time for us to make the decision, and I thank God that now I can make this decision without any afraid and without confusing. After days and nights discussion, Jackie decided to stay in China for good, and I also decided to tell my bosses at the right time. If you ask me, didn't I regret. No, I didn't, but I do feel very sad to leave such a good boss. I would say it's not easy to have the boss like Marco, even sometimes he did put us in some miserable life. Therefore, I gradually adjust my feelings to face the new life ahead, and try to figure out how to hand off my job perfectly.
However, life is not always going at our expectation. We need to turn around.
When we are under consideration of making decision, I prayed to God to give us enough wisdom to make the right decision, and I also told Jackie that no matter which decision we made, I believe if the decision is right at God's will, then we will feel peace in our mind. Just day after our first decision, Jackie told me that he wants to transfer back to Taipei. Lots of reasons and considerations. Anyway, I respect and support his decision.
Now, I need to turn around. And thanks God, it's not bad.
There are lots of voices around us ever since anyone who knows that Jackie is working in China. In general, I separated into two groups. The first group I called "Church Group". Every friends from church strongly suggest and encourage us to live together for sure after we got married since Bible said husband needs to live with wife. I agreed at all, but in fact, I am not ready yet. Partially of course because of financial pressure, but most of the reason is that I am really not the dependant guy, even though I am dependant on my husband. No misunderstanding. I am not the one who needs money to feel safe or proof myself. I just get used to handle all the things by myself since I am 15. I can't imagine or I can't make sure that I can live life to be a dependant. The second group is "Workaholic Group". Usually this group are friends from working place or college mates. They thought that I should not quit my job due to I have very progressive career life ahead of me, and I shouldn't give up for the sake of family. Even just away from job market for several years, it's hard to back on track of certain level of career. That's true too. But I had mix feelings. To be an extremely successful career guy is not my life goal. I do need recognition from work place, and I do urge myself to do everything as best as I could, but to achieve the highest level is not always my concern. I just want to play a good role when I am in this role. So, even I choose to stay in Taiwan alone, but I always know one day I will be quitting if Jackie still works in China.Just a matter of time when I am ready.
Now, I am ready, I told myself. When the time is finally coming, yes, both Jackie and I know it's time for us to make the decision, and I thank God that now I can make this decision without any afraid and without confusing. After days and nights discussion, Jackie decided to stay in China for good, and I also decided to tell my bosses at the right time. If you ask me, didn't I regret. No, I didn't, but I do feel very sad to leave such a good boss. I would say it's not easy to have the boss like Marco, even sometimes he did put us in some miserable life. Therefore, I gradually adjust my feelings to face the new life ahead, and try to figure out how to hand off my job perfectly.
However, life is not always going at our expectation. We need to turn around.
When we are under consideration of making decision, I prayed to God to give us enough wisdom to make the right decision, and I also told Jackie that no matter which decision we made, I believe if the decision is right at God's will, then we will feel peace in our mind. Just day after our first decision, Jackie told me that he wants to transfer back to Taipei. Lots of reasons and considerations. Anyway, I respect and support his decision.
Now, I need to turn around. And thanks God, it's not bad.
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